Perspectives On Gender Equality
Aiden Crowley

We live in a world where gender inequality is talked about now maybe more than ever. It is evident through conversations such as the me too movement and feminism. Over the course of time there has been a long history of gender inequality where females have been repressed by society. Men have abused positions of power and maintained a societal system that benefits them over the course of history. This inequality has taken many forms over the years and shifted from voting equality to ideas such as equal pay. It was not all that long ago that women were forced to stay home, clean the house and watch the kids in our society. While this way of life has changed it is not completely gone and many of these ideals still persist among the population. The way we look at gender equality has shifted with the times to modern discussions of job opportunity disparity and work life balance amongst genders. Through articles from Slaughter, Reiner, Sandberg and Dorment an issue of socialized gender behavior emerges as a factor playing a major role in this disparity amongst genders. While very real inequality still exists through pay gap and job positions held. The question that is raised from this is what does a gender equal society look like?

Anne-Marie Slaughter
In Slaughter’s article Why Women Still Can’t Have It All she addresses gender inequality specifically in positions of power. Women are severely under represented in high positions of our society. In corporate level positions women “top out at 15, 16 percent”. A focus of Slaughter’s paper is striking a “work life balance” as there are unrealistic expectations put on women. According to Slaughter women are deprived from these positions because of maternity and social pressures. In her opinion there is an overemphasis on working extra hours or “macho time” as she puts it that is inefficient. She puts some pressure on businesses to get away from overemphasizing the vitality of being able to work all the time. Only when this way of thinking is removed will there be enough room for women to work up into high ranking positions. When this is achieved and women are appointed to positions of power while representing 50% of congress will there be gender equality.
Slaughter faces some opposition even with people on her side of the debate. Throughout Slaughter’s article she emphasizes being a mother before every speech. Her thinking is that normalizing being a mother in positions of power will overtime normalize this behavior, allowing for more acceptance in the workforce. Despite her intentions she is met with opposition from other feminists. These feminists claim that she must only be seen as a strong independent women and should stop feeding these gendered stereotypes that women can only be mothers. Slaughter’s point is that women should not have to hide their identity as a mother just as men do not have to as a dad. For society to be equal there should not be any emphasis on being a mother or taking maternity leave as it does not matter for the efficiency of the company. This feminist perspective in many ways perpetuates the ideology that being strong and a hard worker can not go hand in hand with being a mother. This brings up the question whether equal representation is actually equality if the values that are still being held are those of strength or what is considered masculine values. Some people may find Slaughter as unrelatebale as she was head of Policy Planning for the U.S. Department of state where her boss was Hillary Clinton when compared with the average person.
Sheryl Sandberg
Sandberg addresses the issue of gender inequality through her Ted Talk presentation Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders. Like Slaughter, Sandberg also agrees that the issue lies in the roles women are excluded from but differs in how to go about solving it. To Sandberg, women need to be more assertive and demand a spot on the table. They must have confidence and believe that they are deserving of the position. This theory seems to imply that women are socialized throughout their life to be more passive and self contained. Sandberg is telling women to abandon these norms embracing what is considered more masculine qualities to get what they desire. She states that “women systematically underestimate their own abilities”. According to Sandberg to achieve equality women must break this institutionalized barriers that are repressing them and “sit at the table”. Sandberg receives criticism from the likes of Slaughter that she is blaming the women for not achieving instead of institutional factors. In some ways this argument ties to Dorment’s argument that it is a matter of choice. One could argue that Sandberg being the COO of Facebook may overemphasize her own accomplishments instead of looking at social factors such as coming from a wealthy family and attending Harvard that provided her the opportunity to “sit at the table”.

Richard Dorment
Dorment in his article Why Men Still Can’t Have It All claps back at Slaughter and Sandberg. He does not think that there are considerable advantages in life being born a male versus a female. Dorment does acknowledge that institutional sexism and pay discrimination is a thing but are rare. He states “the opportunity gap between the sexes has all but closed but yet a stark achievement gap persists”. According to this article men and women have reached an equilibrium and too much blame is being put on men. Richard Dorment demises that the argument that is being made from the likes of Slaughter and Sandberg is over work life balance and happiness with work. When it comes to this argument he says men have it just as bad if not in some cases worse than women. He states “if anything, it is men who are twice as likely to say they are unhappy”. If the measure on gender inequality is happiness and work life balance then men are actually the disadvantaged not the women according to Dorment. Additionally, in this article he finds that women when given the option prefer to work part time which is contributing to the gender pay difference. He claims it is because women are working part time that they do not make as much as their male counterparts.
Throughout this article Dorment appears to allude to the fact that there is a biological component as to why we see this achievement gap. He claims that in most cases women do not want to work as much and are more content with working part time; which is preventing them from making it to the top. This idea is in direct opposition with the idea that there are socialized norms in our society that influence women to think this way as made evident by Slaughter and Sandberg. Dorment receives a lot of push back from people claiming that he is mocking of Slaughter and Sandberg in the way he composes this article. There are also claims that his audience is just young wealthy white males who do not want to see women make more than them. These criticisms help emphasize the fact that there are gendered stereotypes playing a role in this argument one way or another.
Andrew Reiner
Reiner in his article Teaching Men To Be Emotionally Honest indirectly aims at a solution to this gender inequality. In this article Reiner addresses socialized gender behavior in a way similar to what Slaughter says for women. Men are often taught to repress their emotions and “be a man” to not cry. He states “boys are taught, sometimes with the best of intentions, to mutate their emotional suffering into anger”. This does not provide males an outlet which often leads to anger. Reiner advocates for safe places for males to express their emotions in safe ways. He argues that giving males this outlet actually benefits women. Women are often the outlet for males problems and therefore carry the burden of their problems and the males. Some argue against Reiner claiming that he is just contributing more to the problem by providing more for the privileged males instead of really addressing the problem at hand. Arguments like these suggest again that males are on the receiving end of a lot of benefits which opposes some of Dorment’s claims.
What emerges from these debates over gender inequality is a fundamental disagreement on what a future of equality actually looks like. As shown, it is not as simple as merely looking at average pay between men and women. There are underlying debates such as whether our social structure inhibits women from making it to the top or potentially biological reasons. Are institutions the real problem or does it come down to the individual to really want it to achieve in life? There are disagreements on what we should even look at to measure equality. How should our society look? Is it a society that has equal representation in positions of power amongst genders or a society where males and females are equally happy? Should men be allowed to express “feminine” emotions or should women adopt “masculine” values. These moral questions emerge from these discussions and only add to the complexity of the debate. Are we striving for a society that both genders make the exact same amount or is it a society where gendered stereotypes are completely dismantled that allows both genders to finally be equal? Or have we already reached equality? Depending on who you ask you will get drastically different answers. So can we all have it all? It may not be as simple as a yes or no.
Work Cited
Dorment, Richard. “Why Men Still Can’t Have It All.” Esquire, 7 Oct. 2017, http://www.esquire.com/entertainment/a22764/why-men-still-cant-have-it-all-0613/.
Reiner, Andrew. “Teaching Men to Be Emotionally Honest.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 4 Apr. 2016, http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/10/education/edlife/teaching-men-to-be-emotionally-honest.html.
Sandberg, Sheryl. “Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders.” TED. 2010. Lecture.
Slaughter, Anne-Marie. Why Women Still Can’t Have It All. Oneworld, 2015.

































